So, you've met a lady, asked her out and she said yes. Now you have to decide where to go on your first date. This is crucial because the first date can make or break your relationship even before it begins. Some people think it doesn't matter, thinking that its just something you have to get out of the way, but it does matter. Where you go and how you act is very important to leave a good impression. So, where are the best places to go and what places should you avoid. I'm going to give you the best and worst places to go and hopefully it will help make your first date a rousing success.
Worst
Movie Theatre
Its one of the easiest dates to think of and go on. You don't really have to do anything, just sit and watch a movie. This is also the downfall of the movie date. You are both watching a movie. There is no interaction, no banter, no getting to know each other and by the end of the date almost nothing has been accomplished. Your budding relationship hasn't made any progress what so ever. By the end of the movie you are at the same point you were before. You need a date that will grow the relationship and going to a movie just doesn't do it. Movie dates are better left for when you have been dating a couple months.
Nightclub
For some men taking a women to a nightclub works. Much of the time however its a poor first date, maybe a good third date. Nightclubs are loud and full of people. This has two negative effects. First, its hard to get to know the woman better because you are having to yell over the music every time and the women has to as well. Its terrible for conversing with each other and at this point you want to find out more about each other. Second, all the other people around you just serve as a distraction. Other guys will chat up your date, other women may approach you when your date isn't around and make her feel less important. Its also a distraction for the two of you. Nothing will kill the night faster than if your date catches you looking at another women or your date dances with another man.
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| Nothing but problems on a first date. Steer clear. |
Best
Pub/Bar
There is a big difference between a pub and a nightclub. Pubs are usually quiet and more intimate, (yet not romantic) since you are sitting at a table together. Unless there is a live band playing you both have no choice but to get to know each other. Go in the early evening around 6:30-7:00pm. If the bar does have a live band they will start around 8 or 9pm which is an easy way to cut the date off or go somewhere else. One or both of you may be nervous and the pub fare will give ample selection of appetizers if either one of you is not hungry enough for a full meal. Also, don't get carried away on the alcoholic drinks. Keep it to 1-2 at the very most, maybe even none if you date wont be drinking. If you do have a couple drinks make sure you ask the waitress for a glass of ice water at the end to show your date you are somewhat responsible.
One last tip that a lot of men and people in general don't do enough of is be polite to your server. "Please.", "Thank you.", "That would be great.", "I appreciate that.". Get used to saying those things, looking the server in the eyes and having a smile on your face while speaking. It will gain you respect with the server and your date.
Museum/Art Exhibit
Either one of these venues is a great first date. Its a quiet setting and you can talk about all the stuff you are looking at. If you have the opportunity to do both, then pose the question to the women of which she would prefer more. Give her the power to decide. If you go to a museum, make sure its something she will be interested in such as science, nature, architecture or history. Steer clear of military museums. Museums are a great place to take your time touring and will give you the time to get to know each other much better. If its a good museum they may even have a cafe which is absolutely perfect to sit at and talk about your favourite exhibits over coffee.
If you end up going to an art exhibit and she likes the art she will draw your attention to certain pieces that she particularly enjoys. If you don't like it just say, "That's not for me." or "It's not really my style." Even if you think its horrendous looking, go with the ambiguous response. If your date hates the art and wants to leave, don't fret, just leave. Go to a coffee shop and talk about how bad the art was instead.
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| Good quiet atmosphere. Lots to look at and talk about. |
Final Words
Where the first date takes place is important but equally important is behaving appropriately. Women can be turned off very quickly on a first date by any little thing you do or say. You need to steer the date towards the right spot and then allow her to lead. If she is interested in something then be interested in it too but don't overdue it. Good luck.
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