During a man life there are certain things that are unavoidable. As much as you try you will not be able to avoid them. These are realities that men must accept in order to grow as a man. Just like the title suggests these are harsh realities which are difficult to deal with. Its how you deal with them and how you act afterwards that makes you a better man and builds your character.
You Will Have to Make Difficult Decisions
Throughout your entire life you are faced with choices. Everyday you make a choice to do something. Some choices are things that you have already incorporated into a routine such as going to work, paying bills or taking the garbage out. Some things seem mundane, some are boring and some you don't think twice about. Every so often however men are faced with a choice that they have to make. The results either way may not be what you want but you still have to make a decision. Just because you will not like the results doesn't mean you can just do nothing in the hopes that everything will magically work itself out. Many times someone faced with a difficult choice will stall and stall with the hopes that another option will present itself but failing that some men may think the consequences are worth it.
The problem is that at some point you will have to make a hard decision that has unfavourable consequences either-way. You cant avoid this. The men who try to avoid this are ones that never risk anything. You end up being timid are ineffectual and second guess every other decision that is presented to you. Don't shy away from tough decisions, its part of the growing process.
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Life is the sum of all your choices. ~Albert Camus
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You will Have to do Something You Don't Want to do
For men, being mentally strong is just as important as being physically strong. To have success in your life you have to push yourself when you don't want to and force yourself when you have to. Why? Because sometimes you have to, its that simple. Some mornings you may not want to go to work, especially if you are tired, sick or hungover, but you have to. You have to show up, you have to make money. If you have a family then its even more important. Lets think about a professional athlete. They don't have the luxury of sleeping in for a mandatory practise or get to say that they don't feel like playing tonight. They have to. The ones that don't get fired, benched, traded or just don't "make it."
Maybe for a lot of men its not about getting up for a job. For this article its mostly just an analogy. You will be faced with things in your life that you will not want to do but in your mind you will realize you need to do this. To succeed in life and become a better person you will have to take the good with the bad and men must face the bad with the same courage as any other difficult task. Face what you have to do and get it over with.
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Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional. ~M. Kathleen Casey
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You Will Fail at Something (or Many Things)
This is something that is another fact of life for men, the fact that you will fail at something important. It may be something you have been working at for a long time or something you just decided to try. You will suffer failures in your life. Could be at a job, relationship or business venture. Trying to live your life avoiding failure wont change a thing, sometimes there is nothing you can do about it. Failure will teach you more than you ever thought possible. With some men it burns them deep inside and they never want that to happen again. It drives them harder to become a success.
Trying and failing at something is going to happen and the only thing you can do about it is accept it and move on. Learn what you can from your failure to figure out what you should or shouldn't have done and apply it next time.
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Failure doesn't mean you are a failure... it just means you haven't succeeded yet. ~Robert Schuller
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You Have to Work Hard to Achieve Anything Important
If you want to achieve something great then you must put in a great amount of work or effort. Rarely in life something great is given to you for nothing. Life has always been and always will be about hard work. If you have a goal, go out and get it. You cant sit around and expect anything to be given to you for free. If you are given something for free then great but your dreams and goals in life will not fulfil themselves. Sometimes people will keep you back, sometimes its just about circumstances. If you set a lofty goal for yourself then the effort it will take to get there will be that much more. Included in this is along with hard work is time. Be prepared to work hard and for a long time. Nothing will happen overnight for you until you put in the time and effort.
If you want something from life then be prepared to work at it. If it doesn't come right away then keep working. Almost everything in life is achievable if you devote enough work and effort to it. Many times the journey getting to your goal will be just as rewarding as the goal itself. Trying and failing is better than not trying at all.
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Genius begins great works; labor alone finishes them. ~Joseph Joubert
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Final Words
For men, life is full of hard work and tough choices. You must work hard to produce the results you want. If you are unable to produce the results and fail then, either, you didn't work hard enough or there was nothing you could have done. In both cases you accept what has happened and you move on from it. Use what you have learned through the process and try again or approach it a different way next time. Even failure can bring opportunity.
Love this article. Inspiring and uplifting.
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